TWO SIDES TO A COIN

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As the saying goes, "there are two sides to every coin." This is obviously true and goes without saying. So why the saying? More on that in a minute. Each side of a coin is carefully thought out with symbols, meanings, descriptions, relevance, materials, and usage; both sides are completely different although the message behind them and the overall decision making may come from the same sources. The holder of a coin can easily see each side, can respect or like each side the same, and can spend it all the same. The materials whether copper, silver, or a generic mix of many materials makes no difference because the coin is reasonably made up of all of the same materials from the same batch on either side. Now that I have stated all of the obvious things you already know about a coin, I'll state my point...

The saying is meant to convey that there are two sides (if not more) to every story, and the only true sides come from those that were involved in the act or experience or conversation. Now, each person on either side has their memory, what they took, and how they felt about the incident--it doesn't mean either is more correct than the other, it simply means that two people feel very strongly different about a subject. Many who put forth unbiased care to listen to either side, can find good and truth and understanding with each. Although the sides may not be able to see each other, outsiders can easily pick it up, pick it apart, and depict their own version or conclusion. There are few times in life that either side of a story happens as remembered and agreed upon. Whether we are two people in agreement at the same function with the same ideas, appreciations, and similar minds or hearts, our memories and experiences from the event will be very different. People are different, and part of being a person is also having flaws. No one is perfect (also something you know), so we should all stop trying to be, and stop trying to find perfect companions, friends, kids, mothers, bosses, etc. in others, because it simply doesn't exist. Even the machines that print the coins falters, misprints, and makes imperfect coins--something designed to perform the exact task the same way thousands of times a day without fail, still fails. Failure makes us humble, death makes us appreciate life, sad times remind us how precious happy ones are, and so on. It is the balance of life. Yen to Yang. 

That being said, we must let go of assuming or hoping that others should feel, act, smell, see, speak, eat, hear, touch, love, grieve, reward, boast, mourn, interact, greet, or function in any way at all as we do or how we see appropriate or fit. We must not put others in a box or make them conform because it is how we were raise or what we believe in, but we should rejoice in our differences, smile when someone has a quirky new way about them, appreciate different cultures and their mannerisms, uplift our children for who they are and encourage the things their hearts' guide them to, and take a moment to breathe in the same air as our neighbors, look up at the same sky, feel the energy from the same sun, and just BE! As we toss our change into our hang bags without checking that they are perfect, we accept them from a perfect stranger assuming they are in fact the coins we are use to, and many times assuming the count is correct, and we move on--let's not check others so closely, meticulously, and condescendingly. May we judge from the heart of a  mother always and assume their heart means the best and comes from the same loving place we hope that our hearts do. We are in fact the way we are because we choose to be--hopefully we choose love, kindness, forgiveness, and fulfillment.

This blog came to mind because all too often I have had two people very close to my heart who have disagreed, and after lovingly and openly listening to each side, I could see where each was coming from, and I understood their positions. Although many times I am unable to repair things because it is not my place, I felt inspired to write this. I  hope it might help someone somewhere re-correct the wrong, bind the broken, or mend the past. Namaste...